Sooner or later our thoughts turn to the inevitability of loss; through a death or a broken relationship. This is our way of preparing for it. We know that death is indeed inevitable, but who knew about preparation for the end of a loving relationship? A philosopher once said that love never ends well. True, but when either end comes, nothing quite prepares us for it.
What about things left undone, unsaid, un-mended, unforgiven? After all, we are all a work in progress, never completed, never finished. This is inevitable as well.
How do we deal with the flood of emotions that dog us; anger, regret, sadness, fear, guilt? How could a person hurt so badly?
Here’s what does help (Susan L. Fuller, author, How to Survive Your Grief)
- 1. Understanding that what you’re experiencing is normal.
- 2. Understanding why you’re reacting the way you are.
- 3. Letting your grief be exactly what it is no matter what anyone else
- 4. Understanding that just like a physical injury, healing from grief takes time.
- Letting your grief unfold in its own way and in its own time.
- Remembering your life with the person who is gone.
- 7. Spending time with people who totally understand and accept you where you are.
Talk therapy helps here. We support you in your grief. We understand loss. We have dealt with it both professionally and personally.
It isn’t unusual for Counseling on Demand therapists to feel that we know our clients intimately- their friends, lovers and family. In some ways, we get attached to these people, their stories, their successes and struggles. We accompany them at once closely and from far away, as if they are favorite characters in a beloved book.
Here is one fellow therapist’s story:
“Isabella was one of these people for me. She was Naomi’s “sister,” as they used to call each other. When her cancer was diagnosed I, too, was shaken and upset, and when she died I silently grieved”. (Grieving My Patient’s Friend, By GALIT ATLAS, APRIL 12, 2016 3:21 AM, New York Times)
So, you see, you need not go through this alone. With our support, you can get through these times. Talk therapy is not just talk. It is the formation of a unique relationship. It’s the relationship itself that heals.
This is what Counseling on Demand.com therapists do. And it works!
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