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“Serenity is not freedom from the storm, but peace amid the storm”. (anon)

Remember the oft-repeated serenity prayer?  Here it is in part, “…grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change”. For some this seems easily come by.  For others not so easy. As to the events, the ease of accepting the things we cannot change depends in large part on the severity of the event.  It also depends on the individual who is required to accept it. Grief and loss being one of the most traumatic, among others.

As to our requirement to accept very severe tragedies, we may need lots of time.  We may even need to traverse the five stages of grief; “denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance”.  (The Kübler-Ross model )

As Elisabeth Kübler-Ross & David Kessler outlined years ago, below is an abbreviated reminder (briefly quoted in

DENIAL Denial is the first of the five stages of grief. It helps us to survive the loss. In this stage, the world becomes meaningless and overwhelming. Life makes no sense. We are in a state of shock and denial

ANGER Anger is a necessary stage of the healing process. Be willing to feel your anger, even though it may seem endless.

BARGAINING  Bargaining may take the form of a temporary truce. “What if I devote the rest of my life to helping others?

DEPRESSION After bargaining, our attention moves squarely into the present. Empty feelings present themselves, and grief enters our lives on a deeper level, deeper than we ever imagined. This depressive stage feels as though it will last forever.

ACCEPTANCE  Acceptance is often confused with the notion of being “all right” or “OK” with what has happened. This is not the case. Most people don’t ever feel OK or all right about the loss of a loved one. This stage is about accepting the reality that our loved one is physically gone and recognizing that this new reality is the permanent reality. We will never like this reality or make it OK, but eventually we accept it. We learn to live with it.

Does this look like other irreversible traumas in your life?

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I am the Founder and CEO of Counseling On Demand with a Master's Degree in Marriage and Family Therapy with over 25 years of experience in helping Individuals, Couples, Adolescents, and Families who struggle with a wide variety of Life's Challenges. I thus have developed an Array of Effective Counseling Tools and Evidenced-Based Interventions to help you towards Your Road to Better Mental Health and Wellness. You are Never Alone...I look forward to meeting with you or your family member soon!