Chantal’s story, “Before developing a specialty in working with couples, I had heard a lot of rumors saying that couples counseling was a waste of time. It didn’t work in most cases, particularly with high-conflict couples. I didn’t pay much attention to these rumors at first, because in the beginning of my career I did not have an interest in couples therapy.
But now, after years of counseling couples and working through challenges in my own marriage to eventually create a strong relationship and happy family, I understand why marriage counseling has gotten a bad rap. The reasons some couples don’t succeed in marriage counseling are the exact same reasons they don’t succeed in marriage!
What Counselors Can Offer Couples
Counselors and therapists have a plethora of training and tools to offer. In couples therapy, clients can learn conflict resolution skills, effective communication skills, empathy, problem solving, parenting techniques, how to get their needs met, how to speak their spouse’s love language. I could keep going and name 25 more things you can learn and achieve in therapy.
Plus, counselors offer their clients understanding, compassion, and a safe place to talk openly about problems. They can also give concrete advice and solutions. We even offer homework assignments, so you can do more learning and growing to improve your relationship between sessions!”(Chantal Gagnon, PhD, LMHC3 Keys to Marital Counseling Success,May 30, 2014, goodtherapy.org)
This is where online counseling does it best
We can help. online therapy is particularly suited to help you…right where you sit. You needn’t leave the comfort and security of your favorite/private place.
Traditionally you may think of counseling and psychotherapy as performed in someone’s office. And that exists; however, for you we have an alternative- online therapy. Just go to the internet on your favorite electronic device-computer, cell phone, even your e book and there you are. No waiting in the outer office- sitting across from others. Session scheduling and rescheduling is flexible. Even if each of you are in different places, you can still be together online- or you can be alone from time to time if you choose. Both work.
But does it work? Yes. And, what’s more, online counseling has been found to be MORE effective (In fairness, not all experts will agree- do they ever?) than traditional. Proof? In 2013, at the University of Zurich, that very thing was found. In their words, “Fifty-seven per cent of online patients [who] completed [the] course [were] depression free, [and] only 42 per cent of cases who saw [a] therapist in person felt better.” One reason these experts gave for such success was that online clients were able to look over their notes afterwards while traditional clients tended to forget what was said in session. We online therapists exchange emails with you in between online therapy sessions. That serves to “cement” what was tackled in session.
If you agree, we are there 24/7 so you don’t have to wait for an
appointment. You can begin in 24 hours or less. You may contact us now.
(Matthew Hunt MA, Counseling and Therapy at Home, counselingondemand.com)
Matthew Hunt MA, “We therapists and counselors are very sensitive to your doubts and reluctance. Much of the time the last thing one partner or the other wants to do is to talk, talk, talk. There has been enough already!
Neither partner is asked to “bare his or her soul”. Emotions, faiths, beliefs are very much respected. We work together on this. Talk therapy is not just talk. It is the relationship that heals.
Another issue is that of time and expense. Again, be assured; Counselors and therapists have many tools in their tool box. There are short-term methods that can be very effective- one to fit you.
One of these “tools” is termed Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT); a “tool” which is based on the emotion of the loving relationship in question- love, one definition of emotion above all else. After all, what is love but an emotion?
Emotionally focused therapy, EFT, developed by Sue Johnson, a contemporary psychotherapist and the co-creator- an intervention based on scientific study of adult love and bonding processes in couples, is designed to address distress in the intimate relationships of adults. Strategies from emotionally focused therapy can also be used in family therapy to help family members connect and improve emotional attachment. Couples seeking counseling to improve their relationships may find this method a beneficial approach, as it can help people better understand both their own emotional responses and those of significant people in their lives.
Therapists and Counselors who provide emotionally focused therapy typically work with couples and families to help facilitate the creation of secure, lasting bonds between intimate partners and family members and reinforce any preexisting positive bonds, with the goal of helping those in treatment increase security, closeness, and connection in intimate relationships.(goodtherapy.org/learn-about-therapy/types/emotionally-focused-therapy)
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