To Tell or Not to Tell, That is the question
Elizabeth Bernstein believes that she has the answer. “Here is a question for our post-privacy era: If you’ve been unfaithful to your partner or spouse, do you confess?
“Ever since Ashley Madison, an online dating site for married people, was hacked in July and personal information about more than 30 million registered users was leaked to the public, I’ve been hearing from many marriage therapists who say they have clients who worry their spouse may find out they used the site to cheat and wonder what to do. The answer: Confess before you get caught”. (Wall Street Journal, Sept. 7, 2015)
But is she right? For those of you who prefer to “go it alone”, you might find that the reading of Ms. Berstein’s news article at http://www.wsj.com/articles/after-ashley-madison-how-to-cope-with-infidelity-1441652059 to be of help.
For you who are either conflicted or prefer support from a marriage and family therapist, this is where Counseling on Demand comes in. For those of you whose attempts at reconciliation with your partner did not go well, you need not go through this alone either. Things can be ironed out. With our support, you can get through these times.
We at Counseling on Demand find that the answer is not quite so simple and straight forward. As one may suspect, fellow mental health professionals agree that there is no “black &white” answer; no perfect truth.
Here is why. Individuals and couples are unique with different personal makeups; personal beliefs and emotionality. Couples’ marriages differ as well; as to strength, commitment and duration. The affair itself varies as well; as to frequency (maybe just once in a weak moment) or a long-standing love affair. The very definition of infidelity differs among people.
This is a process, which is guided by a skilled third party who knows how to avoid much of the trial & error and ambiguity clients struggle with. Counseling on Demand has these skills and experience. There are circumstances in which the affair is better kept secret.
We can help. You needn’t leave your favorite/private place. Nor must you wait for an appointment. We are there 24/7. You can begin in 24 hours or less.
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