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Anxiety of a Disrupted Relationship

Today we explore what Freud called the repetition compulsion. This is our drive to cling to an identity with which we are familiar, even if it is dysfunctional and personally damaging.

Daniel L. Shapiro tells of a friend who had just walked out on her life partner of more than 25 years in a painful cycle of abuse and victimization.

In doing so, she had abruptly broken the pattern.

In the weeks that followed, she experienced profound grief and anxiety. She became consumed with whether to return to her partner, despite understanding the severity of the abuse she had suffered. (Daniel L. Shapiro, Daniel L. Shapiro, Ph.D., Of Dating and Diplomacy, NY Times, May 10, 2016)

  This is why online is here for you. We understand (as does Shapiro) that leaving a relationship is hard work and that such relationships are not so easily settled. To expect that leaving a relationship will result in a new beginning is to underestimate the power of identity. Real change entails not just intellectual understanding of our patterns but also deep emotional acknowledgment of their allure.

You need not go through this alone. Working together, with a Counseling on Demand counselor, you can begin to willfully resist their draw.

Our aim is to help you open the door to a new and healthier reality.  Be assured that you can get through these times.

We can help. You needn’t leave your favorite/private place.  Nor must you wait for an appointment.  We are always there for you. You can begin in 24 hours or less.

You may contact us now. Your first consultation is free. Schedule one on our website.

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I am the Founder and CEO of Counseling On Demand with a Master's Degree in Marriage and Family Therapy with over 25 years of experience in helping Individuals, Couples, Adolescents, and Families who struggle with a wide variety of Life's Challenges. I thus have developed an Array of Effective Counseling Tools and Evidenced-Based Interventions to help you towards Your Road to Better Mental Health and Wellness. You are Never Alone...I look forward to meeting with you or your family member soon!