In a previous article, I’ve talked about how we resist change and the reasons behind that resistance. Vishnu Virtues, author of “10 Sacred Laws Healing a Broken Heart,” talked about his major life changes such as, moving back to Asia and getting a divorce after a 10 year marriage. He was so resistant to change because he felt that there wouldn’t be any benefit from it. This went on until he got sick of the way things were turning out for him. That’s when he knew he needed to turn his life around. During his journey, he encountered many life lessons that I feel most of us encounter. The way to overcome an experience is to proceed with love rather than hate.
Reduce Your Expectations
This is easier said than done but just by being mellow about something instead of having high expectations will help you out in the long run. Vishnu states, “ You can have reasonable expectations of how you’d like something to turn out, but you can’t marry yourself to that result.”In the end, you will be disappointed. When you don’t demand a particular outcome, you’re able to manage any obstacles that do come your way.
Sudden Change Can Happen at Any time
You’d be surprised how quickly your life can turn around. A client of mine was already dealing with her depression when all of a sudden, her mother had a severe hemorrhagic stroke. She dealt with many health complications, including type 2 diabetes and was in a coma for a few weeks. Her entire left side was paralyzed and still is to this day. After a while, my client became her mother’s caregiver and moved in with her brother and sister-in-law’s house. She dealt with many challenges but quickly got used to everything. She’s no longer surprised if things come up. Whether she wants to or not, she has to deal with it anyway.
Allow the lessons to unfold and try to understand what’s being told to you. If you can just embrace the situation then it would be so much easier to let it go and make shifts into your life. If you need more guidance, I once listened to a motivational speaker by the name of Esther Hicks. Esther, as Abraham (her spirit guides), goes on a rampage about how you should be at peace with where you are otherwise you cannot get anywhere else.
In the end, you’re not the same person you used to be. You are resilient even if you feel that you are. If you don’t accept or embrace change, sooner than later you will regret that you wasted time dwelling on how something shouldn’t have happened. It takes time, practice and most of all, patience with yourself. Once you have embraced the lessons, experience and downfalls, you can no longer be broken down. You become unsinkable. Change, then, leaves on its own.
“Life is change. Growth is optional. Choose wisely.” ~Karen Kaiser Clark